Category Archives: Men

“Men, on the other hand, tend to envision love as taking their partner to romantic places, having sex, or doing something that surprises and pleases a partner (Gamble, 2003)(p.175).”

Speaking of “sluts”, I recently watched one of the reunion episodes of Rock of Love Bus with Bret Michaels. It really made me hate “reality” love shows like that even more. Each girl was completely stereotyped and they looked like porn stars–in fact, I’m pretty sure they said one of them was a porn star. I guess the entire season of the show sent a bunch of women on a tour bus with rock star Bret Michaels from the band Poison. Michaels wanted to find love. One of the girls admitted to Michaels that she had taken a vow of purity to not have sex for three years–she evidently was voted off the show by Michaels. During the episode I saw, she confessed that she had been looking to break the vow with Michaels, and not to keeping it… but he voted her off the show when he thought he couldn’t hit-it? Is that shallow? Or is that just the way men are “programed”, if that’s how men tend to show love? But what about the other two options: taking her to a romantic place or doing something that surprises her (Gamble, 2003).

This show completely objectifies women, sticking with the stereotypes, and ultimately encourages women to objectify themselves in order to get the guy (Gamble, 2003). Deep down, I really hope that some producer had this show in mind in order to show that this is the way women should NOT behave in order to be desirable. Michaels has chosen a new girl each season, and it hasn’t quite worked out. I wonder why. But maybe that’s just the life of a rockstar? But then you watch the clips from when Michaels is talking with the show’s “runner-up” Mindy, she’s seems so sincere, just like Michaels said. Then compare it with the “winner”, and it makes you question who would have been the better girl for Michaels.

Reunion. (2009). Rock of Love Bus with Bret Michaels. [Reality television series]. VH1.

Gamble, T. K., & Gamble, M. W. (2003). The Gender Communication Connection. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co.

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“Men are presented as desirable not because of their personal qualities, but because of their bodies (Gamble, 2003)(p.354).”

While finding a YouTube video for another post, I ran across this video that was taken on out very own campus in Santoro Hall. It’s an absolutely interesting insight of what goes on behind the closed doors of an adolescent teenage boy. In the video, this college freshman (Santoro is a freshmen residence hall) stands in front of his mirror and goes on and on about how “jacked” he is getting. He’s absolutely thrilled that his work outs are paying off. He even goes as far as to lift his shirt to view his stomach area and tries to get his roommate to put the camera down–but trusts him when the roommate says he “won’t”.

This shows the other side of how media and gender communication can effect people. Here, the boy is obviously proud of his tough, “jacked” body because he’s been influenced by the media and through various other sources. He’s absorbed the idea that men should be masculine, tough, and muscular (according to some new stereotypes about looks regarding men) (Gamble, 2003). It’s funny, but at the same time, it’s interesting to see a candid shot of someone behind closed doors. You could almost say that “Mr. Jacked” has a personal relationship with his roommate in the sense that he feel comfortable behaving this way without feeling insecure.

College roommate CNU. (2008). posted by sweepersnake. YouTube.com. See link above.

Gamble, T. K., & Gamble, M. W. (2003). The Gender Communication Connection. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co.

Women are stereotypically seen as sex objects (Gamble, 2003).

Every time I turn on my television, it’s usually turned to channel 40–home to G4. It’s a television network that is completely devoted to everything involving video games and naturally appeals to men. What always gets me is the way the programming portrays women. During a commercial break, they showed five or six college graduate women competing in a bathing suit hula hoop competition in order to get an internship. It doesn’t stop there, either. They have new show that’s coming out that completely portrays women as sex objects, more so than I’ve seen on any other network that comes to mind.

The International Sexy Ladies Show will air on the network in June. Basically, they have found videos and women all over the globe who will and have submitted themselves to such a degrading status–just watch the videos posted on the show’s website above. One clip shows a woman purposely getting stuck in sticky candy wearing a super small dress (with a few Brittany poses thrown in). While she’s doing this, the voice over tells you that the video was made for men and women to enjoy the “soundtrack”–which is her moaning. It’s almost as degrading as the half naked women you see on the walls of college-age boys. Really? I feel like women in general have come a long way, but images and notions like this just enforce these gender stereotypes that I find so ridiculous.

Gamble, T. K., & Gamble, M. W. (2003). The Gender Communication Connection. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co.

International Sexy Ladies Show. (2009). G4tv.com. Visited on 3 May, 2009. See link above for website information.

Again with the homophobias and I can’t come up with a quoted title at the moment to go with the rest of my gender blogs for the portfolio

Here’s a video that was posted by some of my residents last semester (they were so proud of them when I first met them (I’m a mid-year hire)). It features them in their own version of a music video to the song What Hurts the Most by Rascal Flatts. The begin arguing at a conference table while one boy slumps in his seat, sad. As the video ebbs on, a romantic relationship is revealed… between two boys (not that this is a bad thing). They also look like Backstreet Boys with their suit jackets on. ❤

Despite the fact that they make fun of a favorite song of mine, it’s intriguing they way they’ve put this imaginary relationship together. After peeling away the top layers of their concept, you can see where there’s issues of homophobia (because the two boys aren’t public about their relationship) and Willie finds Andy making out with a girl after screening his calls. Willie stalks away and slaps Andy for cheating and being insensitive, and also for denying his attraction to guys. Knowing the boys that put this whole video together, they weren’t trying to deliberately make fun of being a homosexual, but they’ve come up with this performance that shows how society can effect someone’s actions if that person thinks that society won’t like what they’re doing–meaning that Andy was making out with a girl because that’s an acceptable thing to do for a guy, whereas being homosexual can still be considered a taboo subject in different areas of the country because it goes against the traditional gender norms for a man (Gamble, 2003).

Gamble, T. K., & Gamble, M. W. (2003). The Gender Communication Connection. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co.

Morgan, T. (Director & Producer). (2008). 3 East Boyz: What hurts the most. YouTube.com, See link above to YouTube video.

“It is, primarily, the male’s view regarding sex roles and sex-role stereotypes that the music industry communicates most often (Gamble, 2003)(p.369).”

Locomotive Breath by Jethro Tull absolutely has to be the most bad-ass song ever. I first heard it on my dad’s Harley Davidson CD and I completely think it fits the stereotype of bikers. I think that this song artistically shows the type of dark place that a man can get in when things spiral out of their control. In addition to the general stereotype that men are more likely to demand control in situations and relationships, I think that it’s also a common perception that men tend to “go crazy” and get upset when they aren’t in control. For example, my boyfriend got so upset the other night when he realized that I was kicking his butt in Scrabble–I had to stop taking score so he would stop pouting and complaining.

Locomotive Breath essentially portrays the way a masculine man may feel if he failed at something–it’s an aggressive and emotional song. The actual music of the song does a good job of enhancing that emotion. From the mass media perspective, this song enhances the fact that men should be in control and dominant and that it’s a really bad situation if they loose that control (Gamble, 2003). This idea is put forth by a male band for a male audience, males being the predominant people who decide that type of music that is released into the mainstream (Gamble, 2003). In my situation, it appeared in a form that is marketed towards men (though there are plenty of female bikers out there!).

Anderson, I. (1971). Locomotive Breath. Aqualung: Record. UK: Chrysalis.

Gamble, T. K., & Gamble, M. W. (2003). The Gender Communication Connection. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co.