“Three ingredients are necessary to nurture a romantic relationship: commitment…, passion…, and intimacy…(Gamble, 2003)(p.166).”

Love Story

Taylor Swift is America’s sweetheart. She lulls us into her world of love, heartbreak, and happiness with every note she sings. It started with Tim McGraw, and now we’re hooked on her one of her most recent hits, Love Story. The song is about two young lovers in a Romeo & Juliet type of situation that takes place in their small town. The parents don’t want the relationship to happen, but despite everything, their love prevails, just like a fairy tale. In the official music video, Swift portrays the song just like a fairy tale as well. She’s dressed in a beautiful, old fashioned gown standing in a castle-type setting, waiting for her perfect Romeo. It’s all about emotional intimacy and commitment.

If only real life was like that, but of course, all her songs are based on true stories. Of course, it seems like this type of story could never really be possible, or could it? In the text, the authors reference three ingredients that need to be present in a relationship in order for it to be a success, at least, according to researcher Robert Sternberg (Gamble, 2003). They say that you need commitment, passion, and intimacy (Gamble, 2003). According to the text, commitment would be the “expectation of a relationship permanence… even if trouble occurs (p.166)”, passion would be “intensely positive feelings of attraction that increase you desire to be with the other person (p.166)”, and intimacy which is “sustained feelings of closeness and connection (p.166)”. In this song, Swift portrays a relationship that seems to have all of the three ingredients to make it last, so maybe it’s not so much of a fairy tale, after all.

Fanjoy, T. (Director), & Swift, T. (Writer). (2008). Love Story. Music Video. Nashville, TN: Big Machine Records.

Gamble, T. K., & Gamble, M. W. (2003). The Gender Communication Connection. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co.

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