“Romantic relationships are in flux; they may grow weaker or stronger, mature or go stale, be revived or end over time (Gamble, 2003)(p.168).”

Blair Waldorf Chuck Bass

Oh, Gossip Girl. The show that has us all (er, maybe just its fans) wishing we could post the dirtiest of secrets online with a mere text message. The clothes, the gossip, the love triangles–we love it all! There’s one relationship in particular, however, that is worth mentioning because it breaks gender relationship norms: Blair and Chuck. In many ways, these characters fulfill their traditional gender roles: Blair is the feminine, high class genteel young woman and Chuck is the handsome, wealthy, powerful young man. Essentially, their relationship completely defies the Ten-Stage Relationship Model featured in the text (Gamble, 2003) because their relationship jumps all over the place constantly. Mostly, they’re just “intensifying”, but then they go to “differentiating”, to “avoiding” and/or “terminating”.

Together, they create a romantic relationship that has been doomed from the start–but we all love it. Blair and Chuck are easily the most scheming, manipulative characters in the show. They defy any and all traditional relationships because they constantly say things to hurt each other. The first time they “got together”, they were in the back of Chuck’s limo and Blair was trying to get revenge against her ex-boyfriend Nate: Nate and Chuck are best friends and Blair had just found out that Nate had slept with her best friend, Serena. Eventually, Blair falls in love with Chuck right about the time that his father dies in a car accident. Chuck goes crazy, flies off to Asia, gets high on opiates, and is saved by his uncle. When Chuck gets back, Blair tries everything to get Chuck to return to normal–including confessing her love for him. Instead, he pushes Blair away. Now, the roles have essentially reversed and the game of cat and mouse continues.

Savage, S., & Schwartz, J. (Executive Producers). (2007).  Gossip Girl. [Television series]. New York, NY: CW Television Network.

Gamble, T. K., & Gamble, M. W. (2003). The Gender Communication Connection. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co.

Photos directly from cwtv.com.


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