“The initiating stage is the stage of superficial, casual interaction that is designed to start person-to-person contact and establish a connection between people (Gamble, 2003).”

There’s a scene in The Holiday starring Cameron Diaz and Kate Winslet that I always thought was interesting. I immediately thought of it when going over the Ten Stage Model of Relationships on page 169 of the text. The idea behind the model is that there’s different levels and stages in relationships that men and women go through with their partner (Gamble 2003)–however, that does not mean that each couple will go through every stage in the ten stage model, maybe just a couple. The “Meet Cute” reminds me of stage one of the relationship model, “Initiating”. Please refer to this quote page in order to get an understanding of what I’m talking about. For the sake of the blog, I’ll also post the specific quote I’m referring to.

Say a man and a woman both need something to sleep in and both go to the same men’s pajama department. The man says to the salesman, “I just need bottoms,” and the woman says, “I just need a top.” They look at each other and that’s the ‘meet cute.’ (Block, 2006).”

After the man and woman initially meet, they’ll have to communicate with one another and (especially in a Hollywood movie, but not necessarily in real life) they’ll fall in love. That’s how romantic comedies work.

After thinking of this movie clip for stage one, I started thinking of other movie examples to fit some of the other ten stages. Stage 10, “Terminating”, can be exemplified with the movie The Breakup–which is, in fact, about a breakup. Here, you can see that both of the main characters are fighting. I do believe that this scene takes places after the initial breakup. Not all relationships work out, and this one obviously didn’t either (Gamble, 2003).

Stage 3 can be exemplified with the last scene of Breakfast at Tiffany’s. At first, Holly is indifferent to Paul’s feelings, but he keeps confessing his love for her in the cab. Finally, Holly lets Paul into her heart through that tough exterior, and they get together–she doesn’t go to Brazil.

Block, B., Meyers, N. (2006). The Holiday. USA: Columbia Pictures.

Gamble, T. K., & Gamble, M. W. (2003). The Gender Communication Connection. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Co.

Jurow, M., Shepard, R., & Edwards, B. (1961). Breakfast at Tiffany’s. USA: Paramount Pictures.

Stuber, S., Vaughn, V., & Reed, P. (2006). The Holiday. USA: Universal Pictures.


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